3 Reasons to Know Whose You Are

Our identities as humans are rich and multi-faceted. Knowing who we are gives us insight into how we interpret and show up for the world around us. Increased self-awareness can even help us become more aware of others. But far more important than knowing who we are is knowing whose we are. Because who we are will likely change more times than we can count over the course of our lifetime. But our Father is unchanging, and knowing this and who He is, brings a stability, comfort and peace that is unshakable!

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The Worst Reason to Pursue a Goal

There are many reasons why people pursue a goal. To challenge themselves. To see what’s possible.
To offer something to others. …The list goes on.

But of all the reasons I hear from clients, there is one that waves a red flag every time it’s spoken: to find happiness or contentment.

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Dream Police

So often, we second guess our dreams, or stop pursuing them all together! Why? Fear, confusion, doubt… Nothing needs to stop us from the dream God provides.

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Who you hang with matters!

There’s been lots of buzz about “finding your tribe” in the past several years, because we all know who we hang with matters! There’s a high correlation between our own health (mental, spiritual, physical, even financial!) and who we spend our time with. This is because of the influence we have on each other and how susceptible we are to “group think”. Who you run to matters. Because we’re only as stuck as our thinking …and the thinking of those we run to.

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Indulging in Negative Emotion

I have a list of feeling that over 400 feelings that I bring up while coaching to help clients get really clear about how they feel or want to feel. Of all the feelings available to us, there’s a small category that I call “Indulgent Emotions”.There are a handful of “Indulgent Emotions” which keep us stuck in inaction. I’ll show you how to sniff out “confusion” and how to call it’s bluff!

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What if…?

Worry is an indulgent emotion that serves no useful purpose. It keeps us “stuck” in inaction and keeps us from fully stepping into the life we were created for. In this ten minute tool, you’ll gain some clarity around what’s REALLY keeping you from reaching that goal. (Spoiler alert: It’s always your thoughts!)

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CLEAN PARENTING

Often times, when we think we’re “protecting” our kids, we’re actually attempting to control them in order to feel something (or avoid feeling something). But this isn’t their job-it’s ours. Cleaning parenting increases our confidence, and gives us our power back by helping us take responsibility for our thoughts & feelings. When we parent from a clean place we still discipline and give consequences, but only after we’ve cleaned up our thoughts.

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Life is 50/50 (Positive & Negative Emotion)

Everything we do or don’t do is either to feel something or avoid feeling something. We often make decisions because we think “there” will feel better than “here”. But the truth is, “there” will still have a 50/50 mix of emotions. The sooner we accept this, the sooner we stop suffering.

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Decreasing Defensiveness

Often times, we react to things without an awareness of what’s happening within us. You’ve likely heard it said before that the amygdala doesn’t know the difference between physical and emotional danger. It’s initial quick reaction is the same (until the prefrontal cortex kicks in with its reasoning). While the brain is predisposed to defend, we are not at its mercy when it comes to our responses.

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How to Self-Coach

Managing our minds and taking ownership of our lives requires intentional self coaching on a regular basis. But what does this actually look like? Today, I teach you how to use the model to self-coach. It’s a lot to take in, but even if you only apply step one or two, it will change the way you’re thinking, feeling, and the results you get in your life!

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