The concept of the model I teach is not new to most people. Somewhere among the exorbitant volume of information we consume, you’ve likely heard it said that your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, and your actions create your results. Aaron T. Beck (“The Father of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) was the first to succinctly express this observation. Brooke Castillo (founder of The Life Coach School) reworded his work into a diagram similar to mine below. But the model itself wasn’t created by humans. Models aren’t something we create on paper. They’re the way that God created the world and they show us how it operates. They’re a neutral observation of human behavior, and they’re working whether we acknowledge them or not.
2. Unintentional living
“Why does everyone in my life take advantage of me (or fill in the blank!)”
3. You’re somewhere in between
Running models and self-coaching allows us to see the models we are creating and then decide powerfully if we want to keep living in them. But if you want to reach your goals, you have to get good at knowing your models. You have to be intentional about pulling your thoughts apart and deciding how you want to show up in this world. (And the next!) Choose who you want to be and how you want to think. (Watch for a future blog with specifics on how to self coach!)
There are two models (thoughts) to focus on when working toward changing a habit or creating a goal:
Most of our models are unconscious. We can only coach on ourselves in the area of self-awareness. But it’s the thoughts we think are “facts” until someone challenges whether it’s true, that trip us up the most. One sneaky thought creates a cycle that keeps us from our dreams.
I work models daily with my clients. You can get started with yours now. The sooner you get started, the sooner you achieve your goals. The sooner you start living big and stop playing small. The sooner you take charge of your life.
Come to a free consult and see what it’s like for yourself. You won’t regret it.