As both a therapist and certified life coach, I teach spiritual growth, congruent living, mental health, financial freedom, and what neuroscience & Scripture have to say about all that.
Crisis turns up the heat on whatever is already occurring inside. What we have grows in crisis. This is why great marriages get stronger during the death of a child, whereas fractured marriages end.
When things are going great in our life, we pay little attention to our thinking…because there’s no reason to change our thoughts or feelings.
But crisis startles the brain, making it on high-alert for any signs of danger. This helps us regain a sense of security and control.
This makes us human. And it is NOT helpful.
We look to our past to see what’s possible in our lives. We let all the lies we’ve believed and the identity we’ve adopted (from the world-not from our Creator!) box us in and keep us from growing and expanding.
It’s important to challenge and fact-check our thoughts to make sure they’re valid before accepting them as truth. Especially when it comes to limiting who we are and what we can do…or rather, who God is and what He can do in and through us!
As pastor and author Steven Furtick said, “When lies are not confronted, callings are not fulfilled”
It seems we’re all running on or near empty these days. This week while grocery shopping, I looked at the sea of faces around me and saw tired eyes in all directions. Whether tired of wearing steamed up masks or exhausted from living a life that’s been turned on its head for nearly half a year, I can’t say, but tired nonetheless. So how do we refill when when our cup runs dry?
Our identities as humans are rich and multi-faceted. Knowing who we are gives us insight into how we interpret and show up for the world around us. Increased self-awareness can even help us become more aware of others. But far more important than knowing who we are is knowing whose we are. Because who we are will likely change more times than we can count over the course of our lifetime. But our Father is unchanging, and knowing this and who He is, brings a stability, comfort and peace that is unshakable!
There are many reasons why people pursue a goal. To challenge themselves. To see what’s possible.
To offer something to others. …The list goes on.
But of all the reasons I hear from clients, there is one that waves a red flag every time it’s spoken: to find happiness or contentment.
So often, we second guess our dreams, or stop pursuing them all together! Why? Fear, confusion, doubt… Nothing needs to stop us from the dream God provides.
When was the last time you were up against a circumstance that felt impossible to overcome? If you’re like most people, you probably don’t have to think back too far!
Our first instinct as humans is to blame fear (or any other feeling!) on our circumstance. But that’s not really the culprit. It’s our thoughts that are responsible for generating our feelings. And those feelings matter. Because they determine how we’ll show up, and whether the actions (or reactions) will be effective…bringing on the results we want or wanted to avoid!
“You’ve heard of the British Nation and the French Nation? Well, this is the Imagination. And once you get there you can do almost anything you want.” ~Kris Kringle, Miracle on 34th Street
Doesn’t it just make you want to head there for spring break?! It reminds me of my favorite ride at Disney World, The Journey Into the Imagination–with its little purple dragon guide, “Figment”.
The imagination is one of the greatest gifts God gave us. He created us in His image, and allows us to imagine things in our brain, and then create them in the world.
Look at all the man-made creations surrounding you right now. They all started in someone’s imagination. Someone thought them up and then created them in real life.
This is how human imagination was intended to be. But (as with other gifts God’s given us) we often misuse this gift.
I’m in a storm right now.
Of all the troubling circumstances I’ve experienced in life, the ones that are sure to bring out a fight against reality involve my kids. I storm Heaven with my prayers, release “what is” to God, and then continue a cycle of surrendering and repossessing my worry to/from God until it seems resolved.
I’m a life coach.
And a therapist.
And every ounce human.
This is part of the human experience. We get to choose daily to lean on us or God.
If you know me at all, you know that one thing that gets me fired up is people making blanket statements declaring something “evil” that God meant for good.
This week, I saw two different sources proclaim that passion is “rooted in evil”, and “an idol that needs to be torn down”.
As in, The Passion of the Christ?
Wait a minute….I’m pretty sure Jesus himself was passionate.
He had a passion for His Father, and for His purpose: To seek, save and love people. He was so passionate that he DIED for his purpose.
I’m not a big fan of memorized prayers. They feel unnatural to me.
After all, there’s no one on this planet who I convey the same memorized, rehearsed message to on a regular basis!
I’m pretty sure if I had the same scripted conversation with my husband daily, our relationship would be pretty shallow and stale.
I’d rather talk freely with him and share my heart openly–in my own words. That’s equally true when it comes to sharing my heart & life with God.
There is an exception though. I love love love the serenity prayer. Not the short version we all know…But the one that delves into the crevices where the human soul gets stuck.
There’s been lots of buzz about “finding your tribe” in the past several years, because we all know who we hang with matters! There’s a high correlation between our own health (mental, spiritual, physical, even financial!) and who we spend our time with. This is because of the influence we have on each other and how susceptible we are to “group think”. Who you run to matters. Because we’re only as stuck as our thinking …and the thinking of those we run to.